Rape in our culture is something that can’t be ignored. When the man in the feminine is repressed, it becomes destructive; when in women the masculine is repressed, it will inevitably take over. The contrasexual healing forces at work in the unconscious only heal if they are actually sought out and supported without being allowed to take charge. People today are suffering to an intolerable degree because they have no conscious connection with their archetypal ground. Cut off from the ground, they feel alone, and suffering becomes meaningless. They do not realise their suffering is caused by hubris, an overweening pride of the individual, which must collide with external truth and reality. The neurotic is armoured in their pain and guilt-edged guilt. Rape suggests being seized and carried off by masculine enemies through a brutal sexual assault; ravishment is to be seized through ecstasy and rapture. The negative mother, who herself is the father’s daughter, a woman who is not in touch with her feminine feeling values, is aligned with the ideals of the patriarchy. Her partner will usually be a mother’s son, closer to his feminine side than to his chthonic, masculine side, a man related to his inner world. As the marriage continues, his inner beloved is projected onto her. The perfect seedbed for the demon lover. The girl most vulnerable to the demon lover is the one who adores or fears the idealised father.
To condone the arrogance is to paralyse the sufferer.
Having accepted his projection from infancy, she has lived to please him, to share his intellectual pursuits and ideas, and to meet his standards of perfection. The mother is experienced as absent or as a rival. The daughter knows she dare not share her father’s bed, yet instinctively her energies remain incestuous. Thus, her love is split off from her sexuality; in her infantile fantasy, she dreams of her spiritual lover, but in reality, she remains unconscious of her sexuality. She acts out sexually without love, or fears its explosive power that can destroy her; she falls helplessly in love with a man who can’t marry her, with whom she creates an ideal world around in which she is either adored or dramatically rejected. she lives without her body, in dream she appears behind glass, or in a plastic bag or glass bottle. Glass is an insulator that does not conduct heat, and the woman imprisoned in a glass coffin is not in touch with her passion for life; she stands outside looking in, yearning for what other people take for granted. In her loneliness, she fantasises her emotions; she has no “I” with which to experience real feeling. Life does not flow through her; having been filled with her father all her life, she has learned to mirror a man, but remains a reflector. She is her father’s walking doll, sweet and erotic as unconsciously may be, she has s a pseudo male psychology.
Consciously, she is a good friend to a man and, as a wife, capable of sacrificing her life to serve her husband. If he matures, however, he will be bored with her asexual nature and her sctoplasmic body that surrounds her; he can never quite reach her, get close to her. At first, he may have faltered under the pressure of being idealised as a god; he can’t sustain the projection, and ultimately he will reject the denial of his own personality, knowing he can’t live up to her demands and ideals. She is caught up in a fantasy about her father as her true love. But father is both lover and jailer; the positive and negative aspects of his influence are close enough to be almost identical. The father’s daughters walk a tightrope above an abyss, putting one foot carefully ahead of the other, a precarious balance between not living and a highly charged spiritual world. If she succumbs to her inner lover, he becomes her and a genuine relationship. A real man appears contemptible, and sexuality seems like prostitution. Her willing submission to her demon lover manifests in broken relationships, overly critical attitudes, and driveness migraines and other symptoms of tension. If his power becomes magnetic, she is in danger of death, unconsciously lured into a trap, and without her feminine ground, she is insuffcinely connected to her instincts to stay in life. She is vulnerable to the suave manner, eloquence of words, the exhibitionism and perfection that sets her up for murder by the man who is carrying the projection or by her own inner lover. The strength she projects onto the demon lover is no longer available to her. The projection drains her, leaving her fragile, physically and emotionally. At the core of the father – lover complex is the father god she worships and yet hates because on some level she knows he is luring her away from her life. She is bound to him without any energy going into finding out who she is herself.
The joint animus whispers, “You must, you have to, you should “
The eomon lover is a trickster, the perfect bridegroom for godlike perfection; he is still a little boy looking for his mother and continually demanding his victim’s motherliness. Loneliness meets lonliness and they cling together in an unconscious symbiotic bond. When the father’s expectations are combined with the mother’s negative animus, the woman’s individual identity has not developed. In the vacuum left by her loss of feeling, the negative animus attacks, telling her she is unlovable, unworthy, ugly and forever his prisoner. as she continues to project her negative animus onto men, she will forver constellate the mans neagtive mother. she raltes to him trough logos, in a game of “Judge and blame ” and takes overt the male role and both left wothout feeling. Through consciousness, a woman may find she can protect herself fromthe rape of the masculine principle. She has to remain true to her feelings; your arguments have nothing to do with my essence. These are my feelings, even if you think I am making a fool of myself. These feelings are my truth; the feminine ego can be terrorised by the masculine invasion, and its defence is authentic feeling.
Another aspect that can develop from the demom lover / negative mother relationship is that of the orphaned child. a child not experienced a relationship with either father or mother. The daughter becomes his anima bridge, his own unconscious, the walking archetype, a goddess, who has sacrificed her humanity; she becomes responsible for his well-being, even his creativity; her own creativity and expression is blocked. she needs to recognise she had been psychologically raped by her father, where her spirit has been repeatedly taken over by him, with an ever-present overwhelming fear of opening herself up to anything of her own. she exoereinces herslef as the source of his life, bound by unconscious pyschological incest. The instincts operate at a spiritual level and remain floating, autonomously in the unconscious, disconnected from the ego. Her love and sexuality are split, as sexuality goes into power, as her body is split from her spirit. Sex becomes a symbol of power, not one of union. Union is impossible if the ego is afraid to surrender; it is not firmly grounded in its instincts. When she falls in love, it will probably be with an idealised figure, whose happiness she must garnish and mother. The woman with a demon love has an inflated view of the imaginal feminine and a deflated view of the genuine feminine. Her underdeveloped femininity is looking for a man to save her, where she is either threatened by the aggressive masculinity or continually challenges it. She tends to meet a joyless Don Juan out ot prove his masculinity, both unrelated to their sexuality, and she becomes another scalp on his belt. Sexual intercourse has nothing to do with relationships and is only primal narcissistic gratification.
She remains the unravished bride
Such a woman, in her innocence, wonders why men call her cruel, as no ordinary man is allowed to reach her or come close to her. She waits for the man who can ravish her, as she does not take responsibility for her femininity; she may cause tragedies or find her own tragic end. Her innocent playfulness is also full of criminal ruthlessness. Her femininity remains unborn, lured into a masculine fantasy of perfection totally unrelated to the life of her own body. raped from within by a vampiric witch, she dared not be open in life or relationships. Her power with animus ravages her own creativity, and she does not know how to harness her potential and bring the perfectionist ideal into existence. Our culture has become charged with a fierce masculine power drive in an outrageous masculinity and enraged femininity. Our cultureis a breakdown of feminine mystery, where generations of women have assimilated a patriarchal value system, more removed from their feminine principle. If a woman can’t contact her own maiden, she will remain unravished; she is not present enough to receive the masculine. “Letting go” means falling into the abyss, falling into blackness, which is total chaos; the harder she tries, the more she shuts herself off. The maiden needs to go through the looking glass, to the other side, and open herself up to the wealth of an inner world. A woman can experience life as meaningful without knowing herself. Psychological rape is traumatic for a woman because it separates her from her unconscious nature, confronting her with extinction or psychic annihilation. Her task is to bring her nature into consciousness, to bring in her uniqueness and vitality/essence. Somewhere at the centre of this mystery is reality, which has to be experienced, not verbalised, as it has to do with knowing. It is an immediate, crucial task if our planet and individual souls are to survive.
